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End of Sunday

We had lunch at home, and after that a aunt phoned us to tell another aunt was dead. It wasn't a surprise, my aunt was at hospital for a long time, she was slowly getting weaker each day, it was half expected. And as I believe in life after death I know she's pretty much better now, free from her old body, probably really soon she'll be somewhere laughing and talking about her trips and books she read during her life. That's how I picture her.
Tomorrow there'll be her funeral, and then it'll start another fight at family: it'll be time to sell the house in which she was living. That house was constructed by my great-grandparents during the 1930's, and they had 7 kids, one of them was my grandfather. Well, all those kids have/had their families, so you can imagine the situation: many heirs to the house. In fact nobody gives a damn to it, but if it can be sold, there'll be money, and everybody's desperate for it. But it won't be easy:
1) One of my cousins has his garage there, where he fixes many cars. Somebody will have to convince him it doesn't belong to him, so would he mind to move his garage to another place because we need to sell the house?

2) The 7 original heirs: three of them (my grandfather, his brother and now his sister) are dead, but they had their kids. My aunt didn't have any kid, so all nieces and nephews are supposed to receive her part of money. It must be divided wisely, right?

3) Some of my nice cousins aren't absolutely nice, probably will want to take advantage and it'll start new fights. Lots of acid words will be spoken, many uncomfortable scenes will happen. That's all what I really need right now.

It was an old habit here in Brazil to watch the dead person all night before the funeral. There are those small chapels inside cemeteries where the coffin stays, and the family and friends would stay there watching all night, talking, drinking coffee, until the funeral hour. But it's dangerous to do now, it's said people on those chapels were being threatned by suspect guys, so the coffin stays locked inside them at night and family and friends arrive at morning. So there's a few more hours before the next family storm.
But I'll miss the house. I spent nice hours of my childhood there, playing on porch, on backyard... after growing up I didn't go there too much, although it's really near the building I live in. One day I went there to visit my aunt and decided to go again to backyard. It was so small!!!! As a child I thought it was huge, full of trees, and in fact it was never that size, it was so... small. It was depressing, a childhood memory crumbled to pieces that moment, but I survived that. Maybe it wasn't small at all, just my horizons grew larger than it. It's a pity the next generation of family will never have that shocking moment, but that's how life goes on, I suppose.

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tobyfan
May. 10th, 2004 01:07 pm (UTC)
{hugs} and prayers for you and your famil, Adriana.
adrianabr
May. 10th, 2004 01:17 pm (UTC)
Thanks, Anne!
rileyc
May. 10th, 2004 02:27 pm (UTC)
{Hugs} Sorry for the sad news, Adriana. That's a good way to remember her, though.

And the thing with the family members, who gets what -- yes, that's nasty. Try to stay out of it as much as possible, hang onto those good memories.

adrianabr
May. 10th, 2004 10:01 pm (UTC)
Thanks for your words, Rebecca - I'm not totally involved in that discussion, but my mother is, and I hope she won't be too pissed by the situation!! It seems everybody understands it's necessary to sell the house, so it'd be less traumatic for all.
rileyc
May. 11th, 2004 01:00 am (UTC)
I hope it all works out without too many bruised feelings.
rowanfairchild
May. 10th, 2004 03:51 pm (UTC)
Aw, Adriana, that is sad news. I'm glad you have good memories though. I hope the family stuff doesn't get too ugly. We're thinking about you!
adrianabr
May. 10th, 2004 10:11 pm (UTC)
Thanks, Rowan! I also hope my nice relatives behave during this process and nobody gets hurt, LOL
Seriously talking, I hope everybody remembers we're from same family, we're not enemies. Well, let's see what will happen...
debaser28
May. 10th, 2004 04:27 pm (UTC)
Aw, Adriana, I'm sorry about your aunt. And I'm sorry about all the potential stress that this kind of family feud can cause. At least you have this feeling in your heart that she's in a better place, it will help you to deal with all this sadness.{{{{hugs}}}}
adrianabr
May. 10th, 2004 10:17 pm (UTC)
Thanks, Ana! I hope my nice cousins don't show their real nature during this process, or my old aunts will be really shocked. Anyway thanks for your words!
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